How we came to begin....

A Mother's Love

My name is Queen Ekobena and I am the mother of Anferney Keiron Daniel Crabtree. On July 6th, 2013 I found out I was pregnant and couldn't be more excited. About 6 weeks into my pregnancy, I had severely painful cramps that were off and on throughout one day. At around 4am the next morning, I was bleeding profusely and immediately thought I was having a miscarriage (I have had four in the past and one ectopic pregnancy). ​

​That was the beginning of another stressful, difficult high risk pregnancy. I had two subchorionic hemorrhages around my baby and was told I would miscarry shortly. 

But God had other plans for my Anferney. For five weeks I continued to spot and the hemorrhages stayed around my son until one day they disappeared. I thanked God and looked forward to a healthy pregnancy. 

At my 20 week scan, my doctor realized my cervix had shortened to 5.5mm (should have been 3.5cm). I was immediately referred to a specialist, prescribed progesterone and put on strict bed rest. I was at high risk for PPROM (preterm premature rupture of membranes) and if this happened prior to 23 weeks gestation, my child was not viable and would die​.

I got admitted to the hospital right at 23 weeks, my water broke at 24 weeks (PPROM) and at 25 weeks, I gave birth to the most beautiful and perfect baby boy on Saturday November 30, 2013. Anferney was 1lb 7 oz of mommy's sweetness. He came out kicking and screaming, which they didn't think he would be able to do. Everyone was amazed at how well he was doing. Then over the course of 16 hours, my whole world came crashing down. 

​On Thursday December 19th 2013, I made the decision no parent should ever have to make. I took my baby boy off life support and he passed away in my arms. Anferney got an infection and died from septic shock. The months following Anferney's death have been excruciatingly painful for me  and my faith has definitely been put to the test.

I have received an outpour of love and support from family, friends and strangers and I appreciate all of it. There is nothing that compares to the pain of losing a child you prayed everyday for years to have. My life changed the moment I found out I was pregnant with Anferney, the moment I gave birth to him and the moment he died. In six months I went through what most people don't go through in their whole life but I am so grateful to God for blessing me with my sweet baby boy. I've never known a love so strong and the bond between my son and I will never be broken. I learned so much from Anferney and that is why I started this foundation.

My son is still a blessing and his legacy will live on in helping so many families. I pray that anyone going through this journey called grief will find comfort through Advocates of Anferney. God bless you all!